Never do this - Tip #2

Here is the next installment of the Series “Tips on how to visit the hospital. 7 things to never do.”

Last week I introduced Number 1 - Never Force Prayer. 

Prayer is a common response in times of suffering and crisis. However, for someone who is ill, in shock, or even questioning their faith, corporate prayer can be difficult at best.

So simply ask the person you are there to support if they would like prayer. Then respond accordingly.


2. Never Be Afraid to Cry

When people hear what chaplains do, they ask some common questions. 

One common question is, “Do you ever cry when you are serving a family whose loved one just died?” 

The answer, of course, is yes. 

The day that violence, suffering, sickness, cancer, miscarriage, stillbirth, strokes, heart attacks, and death can no longer bring tears to our eyes is the day we should quit being hospital chaplains. 
 

While it is important that I don’t make the situation about myself and my own sadness, shedding some tears with the family can build a meaningful bridge.

I can vividly recall a friend who responded to me in a time of great pain and suffering with a few but deeply felt words. "I am crying with you!" Just knowing that our pain is seen and felt by others brings great comfort.

I no longer apologize for crying, and neither should you. 

Never be afraid to cry with the hurting.