Holiday Grief Tip #2
Grief during the Holidays (A continuing series featuring Kristen Riecke)
# 2 Decorate
As the holiday season approaches, we remember our loved ones who are no longer with us. Creating a space to acknowledge their memory can be a source of comfort and connection this time of year.
In our home, we have a dedicated space in the dining room filled with cherished items that remind us of our deceased loved ones. It is a sacred space. During the holidays, when our typical decor transforms, there's a unique opportunity to include our loved ones in the festive spirit.
For many American families, the centerpiece of holiday decor is the Christmas tree. Consider adorning your tree with ornaments and colors that hold special significance for your departed loved one. For those who have experienced pregnancy loss, a smaller tree lit in pink or blue, and adorned with baby-themed ornaments, can be a meaningful tribute.
I vividly remember the first Christmas without my Dad; my thoughtful sister-in-law gifted us personalized ornaments featuring our most recent family photo, inscribed with the words "Gone but Never Forgotten." This became a precious addition to our holiday tradition.
Expand your commemorative decorations to include family stockings for every member, including those who are no longer physically present. Consider writing heartfelt notes throughout the year, expressing thoughts you wish you could share with them. Reading these notes on a special evening, either alone or with loved ones, can be a touching way to honor their memory.
In my family, we chose blue and white outdoor lights for our back deck in honor of my dad, my kids' "Papaw," a dedicated Colts fan. Every evening, as we gather for dinner, the blue and white glow serves as a reminder of him. Decorating with a theme that resonates with your loved one, such as snowflakes, angels, butterflies, or cardinals, keeps their memory alive throughout the holiday season.
There are countless intentional and tasteful ways to incorporate your loved one into your holiday decor, providing a meaningful connection to your grief journey. May this season be one of remembrance, love, and healing.
-Happy Holidays! ~Kristen
